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Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or you've been working on it for a while, this self assessment tool naturally helps you create a plan for your healing process.
 
Initially when you take the assessment, it will help you to acknowledge the many ways your experience of childhood sexual abuse has impacted your life. Survivors often share that they had never connected many of their current patterns with their past abuse. For some it can be overwhelming to acknowledge the impact, so practice good self-care and complete the assessment in a safe place when you're free to spend some time with it - maybe do it with a theraist, a good friend, or another survivor if you feel like you might need extra support.
 
Although it can be overwhelming for some, the assessment process is also very enlightening and empowering. You will see on paper, maybe for the first time in your life, what areas you can focus on to improve your well-being. There is an endless supply of resources available, so let the assessment be your guide to researching which resources will help you heal.
 
For those who have been on their healing journey for a while, we recommend you complete the assessment twice - the first time acknowledging how your childhood abuse impacted your life overall and the second time noting how it is still impacting your life. We often fail to give ourselves credit for the work we've done and how much we have grown and healed. So let the assessment be a reflection of your progress and take the time to celebrate your success!
 
Consider completing the assessment once or twice a year to help you stay focused on moving forward and proactively seeking resources to help with specific opportunities for healing.
 

Download Our Child Sexual Abuse Survivor's Self-Assessment


Check all bullets that apply and circle specific items within bullets that apply.
  • Fear of being alone in the dark, sleeping alone, nightmares, night terrors (especially of pursuit, threat, or entrapment)
  • Swallowing or gagging sensations, problems eating specific foods
  • Fear of water on one's face when bathing or swimming, feelings of suffocation
  • Poor body image, not at home in your own body, poor hygiene, manipulating your body size to avoid sexual attention
  • Avoidance of mirrors (connected with shame/self-esteem issues)
  • Physical health issues, gastrointestinal problems, gynecological disorders, joint pain, headaches, fibromyalgia, disease (cancer, lung disease, etc.)
  • Wearing a lot of clothing, baggy clothing, failure to remove clothing even when appropriate to do so such as while swimming, bathing, sleeping)
  • Extreme requirement for privacy
  • Eating disorders, drug or alcohol abuse, other addictive or compulsive behaviors
  • Self wounding behavior (burning, cutting, breaking bones, etc.)
  • Phobias (fear of heights, spiders, etc.)
  • Suicidal thoughts, plans or attempts
  • Depression, seemingly baseless crying, lack of connection to others or to the world
  • Need to be invisible, perfect or bad
  • Anger issues; inability to recognize, control or express your own anger, intense hostility toward entire gender or ethnic group of the perpetrator
  • Split personality, splitting, going into shock, shutdown in stressful situations, disassociation
  • Physical pain or numbness associated with a particular memory, emotion or situation
  • Adult nervousness over being watched, touched, surprised –extreme startle response
  • Trust issues, inability to trust, or trusting indiscriminately
  • High risk taking or inability to take risks
  • Boundary issues, problems standing up for yourself, letting others take advantage of you, engaging in abusive relationships or putting yourself in risky situations
  • Control, power or territorial issues, fear of losing control, obsessive/compulsive behaviors (attempts to control things that don't matter, just to control them)
  • Feelings of having no choice, indecisiveness, inability to see options, stuck/can't get out of situation
  • Guilt, shame, low self-esteem, feeling worthless
  • Pattern of being a victim, especially sexually; no sense of own power or right to set limits or say no
  • Pattern of relationships with much older people
  • Abandonment issues, fear of being betrayed, leaving relationships before others can hurt you
  • Blocking out some timeframe, typically in early childhood or anxiety when thinking back to particular age ranges
  • Feeling of carrying an awful secret, fear of telling the truth
  • Denial, no awareness at all, repression of memories, minimizing
  • Triggers - strong reaction to a person, place or event, smell, sound, or even time of year, etc.
  • Sexual issues, sex feels dirty, aversion to being touched, sex is only good when it's bad, strong aversion or attraction to particular sex acts, having to pursue power or be submissive in a sexual relationship, crying after orgasm, all pursuit feels like violation, erotic response to abuse or anger, sexaholism, prostitution, promiscuous sex with strangers often with inability to have sex in an intimate relationship, compulsively seductive or asexual
  • Problems with intimacy – sexual, physical, or emotional

 

  • icon Care Leaders
  • icon Children & Youth Program Leaders
  • icon Church Leaders
  • icon Healing and Deliverance Ministers
  • icon Intercessory Prayer Ministers
  • icon The Church Body's Role

Twenty percent of the population has been sexually abused and that doesn't count the indirect victims such as siblings, parents, spouses, and children. That means at least twenty percent of your congregation are victims - maybe more as God often calls us in our deepest pain and despair. When survivors are struggling with the repercussions of their own childhood abuse they may turn to the church for help. Survivors may struggle with flashbacks, body memories, substance abuse, marital problems, physical health issues, or psychological issues including life threatening eating disorders, severe depression,or suicidal thoughts. Some may be diagnosed with serious mental illnesses and be needlessly placed on psychotropic drugs rather than addressing the trauma of child sexual abuse. So it is critical for care leaders to know how to recognize a survivor, assess their needs, and provide or refer them to the appropriate resources to keep them safe and provide the long-term care they need. 

The church may also be the first place a parent turns when they find out their child was, or still is being abused. This is an emotionally charged time for everyone involved so it is important to have pre-established plans for how you will respond ensuring the safety of the child, abiding by the law, and helping provide for the short-term and potentially long-term physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and financial needs of everyone in the family. These plans are even more crucial if the abuser is a family member. Care leaders may include care ministry directors, lay ministers, recovery leaders, church therapists, chaplains, prayer team members, and all other team leaders or people who have care ministry responsibilities.

We encourage you to learn more about recognizing signs of sexual abuse in children and in adults and to take our free on-line advocacy classes on supporting adult survivors and parents whose children have been abused.

 

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Church leaders who are responsible for programs that serve youth are an integral part of God's plan to prevent abuse that may happen within or through church programs. By virtue of building trusting relationships with the children in their care, these leaders are also a vital part of the rescue team - it is crucial that they understand how to recognize, respond, and report; observed, disclosed, or suspected abuse of any child in their care, whether the abuse allegedly occurred within the church or outside of the church. In fact, clergy and youth program leaders are considered mandated reporters in most states and may be subject to penalties for failure to report to law enforcement or their local child welfare agency.

We need church leaders who are responsible for children, to actively participate in the development and implementation of child sexual abuse prevention policies and procedures and ensure all staff and volunteers who serve youth are trained and monitored. Youth program leaders include children's pastors, youth pastors, heads of school, missions directors, camp directors, and any other person who has direct or indirect oversight of child or youth-serving programs.

We encourage you to learn more about preventing abuse as well as recognizing the signs of abuse in children and taking bold action. 

 

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Church leaders play a key role in the resolution of the child sexual abuse pandemic because all areas of prevention and restoration fall under their realm of responsibility. It is therefore crucial that leaders in the church understand the vision for all components of God's plan outlined on this site including Intercessory Prayer, Preventing Abuse, Reporting Abuse, Speaking From the Pulpit, Survivor Support, Offender Discipleship, and Healing Prayer. This will empower them to raise up those within their congregation who are gifted in each area, ultimately creating a broad and deep program that protects God's children, supports those who are impacted, and adheres to the law. Church leaders include pastors, priests, reverends, vicars, ministers, deacons, preachers, church council members, board members, missions directors, chaplains, overseers including bishops/cardinals, and all other church members in senior leadership roles, regardless of demonimation. 
 

Because child molesters want to spend time where children congregate,
your church is a target. 

 
If your church has a youth or children's program, child molesters will want to work or volunteer there. One researcher refers to youth-serving organizations as a "well populated hunting ground."1 We can't be naive to the enemy's schemes and how he will use people to hurt God's children. So it is essential that you implement informed best practices to ensure the protection of the kids in your care and we can help you do that.
 
Our Founder, Diane Cranley, has written 8 Ways to Create their Fate: Protecting the Sexual Innocence of Children in Youth-Serving Organizations which will guide you and your staff to create an environment where child molesters virtually cannot succeed without being caught and therefore won't want to work. It is based on eight simple best practices, that when implemented will significantly lower the risk of children being abused while in your care. Your proactive approach toward prevention is a partnership with God to protect the plans he has for his children. The side benefit is that it will also protect your church against lawsuits and potentially even lower your insurance rates and increase your coverage limits.  

Protecting the children in your care is your first responsibility! 

Beyond prevention, we are calling you to lead the charge across all areas of spiritual hardship created by this pandemic; from the perpetrators and those struggling not to abuse - to the children and adults who have suffered the transgression of sexual abuse and are now fighting for their freedom from oppression and captivity. Freedom and the restoration of all things is available through prayer and deliverance ministry and we can teach your staff and congregation how to pray and effectively bind up the broken hearted and set the captives free! 

Bind up the Brokenhearted - Set the Captives Free 

Please order 8 Ways to Create their Fate today to learn how to prevent abuse and visit the other topics on this site to find resources for support and healing.

 
 

1Kenneth V. Lanning and Park Dietz, “Acquaintance Molestation and Youth-Serving Organizations,” J Interpers Violence (May 2014): 1,3, doi:10.1177/0886260514532360

 
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"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy..." (John 10:10 NIV) and what better way to do it than to steal the sexual innocence of our children and make them believe it was their fault? Since most victims don't tell, the enemy spends the next several decades pouring salt on those open wounds, often giving the enemy strongholds through unconfessed sin, unforgiveness, and agreements with his lies. But Jesus proclaimed, “If you obey my teaching,” he said, “you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth. And the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31-32 NIV) Claiming the truth and power of Christ's death and resurrection through facilitated prayer can demolish the work of the enemy in a survivor's life, bringing them full freedom and the abundant life God pre-destined for them before time began. Healers and deliverance ministers are the hands and feet of Jesus on this earth, to carry out his ministry of healing the brokenhearted and setting the captives free. There is no greater need for this work than in survivors of childhood sexual abuse.

We encourage you to learn all you can about healing prayer through us as well as other reputable resources.

 

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God's word calls us to not only pray for the saints but it urges us to pray for all people, without ceasing. God has anointed people in the body with the gift of intercessory prayer and these prayer warriors are at the center of God's plan for fighting the child sexual abuse pandemic in the spiritual realm. His word says, "Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven." (Matt 18:18 NIV) 

The Kingdom is in need of intercessors who are led to make this pandemic a focal point of their ministry, engaging in relentless prayer, and wielding God-given weapons that have divine power to demolish strongholds. Intercessors may already lead a team, feel called to start a team, feel led to join a team, or simply to pray individually. All of these roles are valuable and welcome in God's plan!

 

We encourage you to learn more about intercessory prayer over the child sexual abuse pandemic and use our prayer guide so that we are all praying in agreement.

 

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Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.           1 Corinthians 12:27(NIV)

The child sexual abuse pandemic has many facets and in order to overcome this destructive scheme of the enemy, God needs us to actively engage in all of them. We encouarge church staff and the body as a whole to understand their role in prevention and in setting the captives free. There is so much to be done but together we can and will overcome. Please click on the role or roles below that apply to you and learn how you can become fully equipped to join us in this kingdom work.

 

Make a commitment - our kids our counting on us all!

 

Your church and community needs saints who are willing to:

  • Pray daily for all aspects of this pandemic
  • Recognize the signs of abuse in children and give them permission to tell so they can start their healing early
  • Talk comfortably about abuse, even from the pulpit, so adult survivors will find safety in disclosing what may be a lifelong secret
  • Get trained on how to prevent child sexual abuse within the church and at home and invite others to become knowledgeable as well
  • Establish effective boundary policies within the youth and children's ministries to deter child molesters
  • Disciple registered sex offenders and those struggling with inappropriate sexual thoughts about children
  • Provide healing prayer and deliverance from the spiritual strongholds surrounding childhood sexual abuse

 

Please spend some time looking through the topics on this website to see how the Lord leads you to participate. We encourage everyone to get started by taking our free on-line training!

 

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